The premise of rage, anger, and aggression are rooted in the early stage of human relationship, and later became reactivated in the later life. In Alexander and Der Heide (1997) article, it was high-lighted in a case study that one would trigger rage an anger is to protect himself from being hurt. It may be due to a series of humiliating events in his early life.The unresolved shame and embarrassment would further disintegrate the human connection. Without human connection, it further undermine the flows of energy and information in any dyad relationship.
If a child is treated by a cold,icy, and withdrawn mother, the child is unlikely to receive an attune needs, and the chance of having a positive self esteem development will be significantly diminished. To make the matter worst, if the child is consistently receiving negative and rage information from his mother, he will be likely to establish a defensive mode to protect himself. With the on-going anxiety caused by the family, the child's affect synthesizing capacity will be compromised. 'Rather than becoming integrated into a complete sense of self experience, the unacceptable affects, together with the experience, the unacceptable affects, together with the experiences associated with them, are segragated from other affective experience' (Alexander and Der Heide, 1997). Such trauma experience will further result in fragmentation and disorganization in affective development of oneself.
Activation of an intense feelings like rage can serve to protect oneself from preventing the emergence of painful feelings of despair, worthlessness and hopelessness. In other words, the expression of rage and anger is to protect a fragile sense of self from disintegration in the face of the traumatic experience in the childhood life.
